So I’ve shared quite a bit about my thoughts on the experience of pregnancy, mom-shaming, things we want to teach baby and what to gift expecting parents, but now I think it’s time to hear about pregnancy from a dad’s perspective.
I do not subscribe to the idea that dads are “useless” until the baby is a few months old. We have heard this from friends and family plenty of times and I refuse to believe that. I really think that Kirby was born to be a dad, and he has been taking that role seriously since the day we found out we were pregnant. He has taken incredible care of Blob and me throughout this pregnancy, and I know that his experience has been just as interesting as mine has.
Without further ado, here is pregnancy from a dad’s perspective. Kirby decided to break it down into each trimester.
Kirby here!
First Trimester Thoughts
Holy smokes, am I ever excited. When I found out that we were pregnant, I had never felt so many emotions all at once. I started crying while I watched Sam, more stone-faced than ever before say, “I think it’s negative”. Between her being in what seemed like shock, and me finding out I’m going to be a dad, the first thing that started coming to mind was the realization that we have SO much work to do around the house and with our businesses.
After the first few weeks went by, I was doing everything I could to help make Sam more comfortable. I cooked every meal, cleaned every mess I could get to and finished all of the loose ends in our renovations, all while trying to run the business that I had very recently started. So basically, I had zero idea of what I was doing and felt totally frazzled. Fortunately, we have a lot of great friends and people in our lives who were incredibly supportive and offered us a lot of perspective into their lives as new and experienced parents.
We eventually got the biggest things dealt with, received good news after our appointments and ultrasounds, and before I knew it, we had already gotten through the first 13 weeks.
Second Trimester Thoughts
In the second-trimester things started looking a little different. Sam was feeling better, projects were getting finished up and we did a lot of really cool pre-parent things like a photoshoot for Lavender & Grace, which was really great. We were able to do lots of things with Odie as our last few months of a family of three (or so we thought).
One big thing I noticed as we continued getting closer and closer is that I started hearing from other new dads that for the first few months I would be useless as a parent. I wouldn’t have a bond or connection with Blob, and that outside of cleaning and cooking for Sam, I really wouldn’t be effective until 2-3 months. I obviously still don’t know if that’s true or not, but I am refusing to accept that until I have experienced it for myself.
I feel like the second trimester was the easiest on both of us out of the three, but it definitely felt the longest.
Third Trimester Thoughts
So far in the third trimester, we have had quite the experience of learning about what Sam’s body can do, what it shouldn’t do and what it can’t do. It can’t drop something and easily pick it up anymore… It also can’t stop eating ice cubes. It can swell beyond belief. Somehow, it can even go for a 4 KM hike down to a creek and back up the hill, but bending over to pick something up? Nah.
In all seriousness though, I have never been more in awe of someone before in my life. Every single day this woman blows my mind with how strong and tolerant she can be carrying our child in 40+ weather and still kicking ass in running her business. She constantly motivates me to do better while juggling so many different difficulties that I know I could never handle. If this whole experience to this point has taught me anything, it’s that women are badass and deserve every ounce of respect that we can give them.
Well there you have it: pregnancy from a dad’s perspective. Yes, he made me cry at the end there.
I can’t wait to see my man become a dad! He is already such a great dog dad to Odie and Fenn, and I know that Blob will be so lucky to have him.
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As far as I have seen during your pregnancy is that Kirby is like your father in the respect of being totally invested in everything that is happening to you & so, so much a Dad. You are right in that Kirby is meant to be a Dad. I am so happy that this baby will have such loving parents. Congrats to you both on a great journey through your pregnancy! Love you both. Grams